When we published our first sexual bucket list highlighting 50 things we should do sexually before we die, to say it went viral would be a major understatement. The list took on a life of its own, garnering thousands of comments, shares, views, and syndication galore. The truth is even I, the author of the piece, have not tried all Has anyone really? It's an extensive list and not one that's easy to get through, especially if you've committed to marriage and monogamy early in life.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: I've been with my partner for a couple of years. We love each other very much, but it's hard for sex not to feel boring now that we've had it so many times.
But the whole bum area is a pleasure zone you could be totally missing out on just because of the socially ingrained ick factor. Try out some light touching — on your own or with a trusting partner. No need to get angry.